Situation · Yourself
“I compare myself to everyone on Instagram”
What could be going on
Social comparison: Measuring yourself against others' highlights fits; check whether you compare upward almost always.
Envy: Fits if it hurts to see them have what you want.
Contingent self-worth: If worth rests on looks or status, every post becomes a scorecard.
Self-discrepancy (ideal and ought selves): Fits if feeds sharpen the gap between who you are and who you think you should be.
Mimetic desire (Girard): You may start wanting what others display; check whether you wanted it before.
Behavioural addiction: Check whether you keep going back despite feeling worse.
Questions to carry
- In the last post that stung, what was the person showing, and what did I fill in?
- Right after I close the app, what do I believe about my own life?
Also said as
- social media makes me feel like a loser
- everyone's life looks better than mine
- my girlfriend gets low after scrolling
- I can't stop comparing myself
- why do I feel worse after Instagram
- Instagram makes me feel bad about myself