Inquiry · Fear
What are we so afraid of?
A self-reflection for what holds us back.
Name the move, conversation or change you keep putting off, and what you tell yourself each time you put it off.
And what do you expect would happen if you did it?
Start with what it is, or tap the mic
Your draft stays in this browser until you ask for a reflection. What happens to what you write
You leave with
What it is, named
The move being put off, said plainly.
What we're holding on to
The safety the waiting keeps in place.
One move for today
Small enough to actually take.
What holds us back rarely announces itself. It shows up as later, as busy, as not the right time. And it usually feels safe.
Name it, look at what we're holding on to, and leave with one move small enough for today.
In short
Fear is a free, 3-minute guided inquiry for something you keep putting off: a move, a conversation, a change you know is coming. You name what's holding you back and what you tell yourself each time. It looks at what the waiting keeps safe, and ends with one move small enough for today, which you choose yourself.
From the Psychology Library
The patterns behind it
Three ideas from psychology that could explain a moment like this, and how strong the research is for each.
- Experiential avoidanceResearch: moderate
- Approach and avoidance motivation (BIS/BAS)Research: moderate
- Loss aversionResearch: mixed
Said the way people say it“I hate my job but I can't leave”“I stay in a job I hate for the money”“I'm terrified of failing”