Situation · Work
“My colleague makes digs disguised as jokes”
What could be going on
Sarcastic: Fits exactly; check whether the jokes are mostly at others' expense.
Passive aggression: Fits if the jokes carry anger they won't say directly.
Envy: Fits if the digs target things you're good at.
Contempt: Fits if the jokes come with eye-rolls or a sneer.
Humour as deflection: Fits if humour is how they avoid serious feelings in general.
Everyday sadism: Fits if they seem to enjoy making people uncomfortable.
Questions to carry
- After the last dig, who was listening, and what had I just done or said?
- In the moment after a dig, what do I want to say and swallow instead?
Also said as
- she makes sarcastic comments about me in meetings
- he says it's just banter but it hurts
- my coworker is always sarcastic
- passive-aggressive jokes at work
- coworker makes snide comments
- my colleague insults me and says he's only joking