Situation · Yourself

“Nothing I do is ever good enough”

What could be going on

Perfectionism: Very high standards with harsh self-judgement fits; check whether standards rise when met.

Unrelenting standards/hypercriticalness schema: Fits if you must meet high standards to avoid criticism; check what rest feels like.

Polishes endlessly, can't ship: Endless polishing fits; check how often finished work stays unreleased.

Harsh superego (inner critic): A punishing inner critic fits; check how you talk to yourself after a slip.

Conditions of worth (Rogers): Fits if love felt earned by doing well; check what happened at home with mistakes.

Enneagram Type 1: Reformer: The Reformer's fear of being bad or wrong fits as a lens.

Questions to carry

  1. On the last piece of work I finished, whose standard was I measuring it against?
  2. If something I made were good enough, what would I let myself feel?
Take it furtherBring one real moment of it to the Self-Criticism inquiry.Free, about 3 minutes, no account.

Also said as

  • I'm a perfectionist and it's killing me
  • my boss is never satisfied and neither am I
  • I redo everything ten times
  • I can't finish because it's never perfect
  • my husband is a perfectionist
  • I'm never satisfied with my work

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