“Nothing I do is ever good enough”
What could be going on
Perfectionism: Very high standards with harsh self-judgement fits; check whether standards rise when met.
Unrelenting standards/hypercriticalness schema: Fits if you must meet high standards to avoid criticism; check what rest feels like.
Polishes endlessly, can't ship: Endless polishing fits; check how often finished work stays unreleased.
Harsh superego (inner critic): A punishing inner critic fits; check how you talk to yourself after a slip.
Conditions of worth (Rogers): Fits if love felt earned by doing well; check what happened at home with mistakes.
Enneagram Type 1: Reformer: The Reformer's fear of being bad or wrong fits as a lens.
Questions to carry
- On the last piece of work I finished, whose standard was I measuring it against?
- If something I made were good enough, what would I let myself feel?
Also said as
- I'm a perfectionist and it's killing me
- my boss is never satisfied and neither am I
- I redo everything ten times
- I can't finish because it's never perfect
- my husband is a perfectionist
- I'm never satisfied with my work