Situation · Partners and dating
“He makes jokes at my expense”
What could be going on
Contempt: Mockery that makes you feel small is a strong warning sign; check his tone.
Sarcastic: Check whether sarcasm is his general style or aimed at you.
Passive aggression: Fits if jokes carry anger he won't express directly.
Humour as deflection: He may use humour to avoid deeper feelings; check whether it's deflecting or wounding.
Everyday sadism: Fits only if he seems to enjoy your discomfort.
Humiliation: Check how you feel afterwards; humiliation has lasting effects.
Questions to carry
- At the last joke about me, who was listening, and how did he look at me after?
- Laughing along, what am I feeling under the laugh?
Also said as
- my husband mocks me in front of friends
- she puts me down and then says it's just a joke
- why does my boyfriend tease me so much
- he humiliates me and laughs
- my partner makes fun of me in front of people
- my wife ridicules me and says she's joking