Situation · Work
“My manager guilt-trips me into staying late”
What could be going on
Uses guilt to get compliance: Fits exactly; check whether guilt appears when you set any limit.
Emotional blackmail (fear, obligation, guilt): Fits if refusing is met with hurt, sulking or implied threat.
Boundaries: Fits if your limits haven't been stated and are easy to push past.
People-pleasing: Fits if you find it hard to disappoint anyone.
Reciprocity: Fits if past favours make you feel you owe them.
You feel guilty without having done anything: Fits if you feel guilty around them without having done anything.
Questions to carry
- Which words did my manager use the last time I stayed, and when did they say them?
- Picturing myself walking out on time, what feeling stops me at the door?
Also said as
- my boss makes me feel bad for leaving on time
- she says the team needs me so I can't say no
- my boss uses guilt to get more work out of me
- I feel guilty when I leave before my boss
- my supervisor makes me feel guilty for going home
- boss uses guilt to make me work overtime