Situation · Family and friends
“My friend isn't happy for me when something good happens”
What could be going on
Envy: Fits if your gain stings because it is something they want and lack; check what it touches for them.
Envy disguised as critique: Could be envy if the good news is met with a small criticism or a reason it won't last.
Social comparison: Your success may lower how they rate themselves; check whether it bites most in areas they care about.
Vulnerable (covert) narcissism: Fits if they are thin-skinned generally and quietly resent anyone who gets attention.
Mind reading: Check whether you are reading coolness as resentment; they may be tired or struggling with something of their own.
Questions to carry
- What did my friend say in the first few seconds after I last shared good news?
- Since then, how have I started to tell my friend about good things, if at all?
Also said as
- she goes quiet every time I share good news
- why can't my best friend be happy for my success
- my mate changes the subject when I get a promotion
- friends who aren't happy for you when you do well
- friend resents my good news
- my wife's friend gets weird whenever I celebrate something