Situation · Family and friends
“My friend gossips about me behind my back”
What could be going on
Gossips and triangulates: Fits if they carry stories between people and set friends against each other.
Envy: Could be envy; check whether the gossip targets what you're proud of.
Passive aggression: Fits if they won't raise grievances with you but voice them to others.
Need to belong: A common cause: gossip buys closeness in a group; check whether they gossip about everyone.
Lies easily without discomfort: Check whether the stories are accurate or invented.
Questions to carry
- How did I last hear what my friend had said, and who was it said to?
- Since I found out, how has what I tell this friend changed?
Also said as
- found out my best friend has been talking about me
- she's nice to my face and bitches about me to others
- friend spreading my secrets
- why would a friend talk badly about me
- friend talks behind my back
- my friend told everyone my private business