“My boyfriend wants to be with me every second”
What could be going on
Anxious-preoccupied attachment: Fits if time apart makes him anxious; check whether he calms when you check in.
Fusion versus intimacy: Fits if closeness for him means merging into one life with no separate parts.
Can't be alone: Check whether he struggles with being alone in general, not just from you.
Enmeshment: Check whether he grew up in a family with blurred boundaries.
Coercive control: If togetherness is enforced and your absences punished, it's control.
Limerence: Early infatuation can feel all-consuming; check whether it's new and likely to settle.
Questions to carry
- The last time I made plans without him, what did he say or do before and after?
- Picturing a whole day to myself, what feeling comes first?
Also said as
- she gets upset if I want time alone
- he can't do anything without me
- why does my partner need to be with me all the time
- suffocating relationship
- my partner is clingy
- my girlfriend won't give me any space