Situation · Partners and dating

“My boyfriend wants to be with me every second”

What could be going on

Anxious-preoccupied attachment: Fits if time apart makes him anxious; check whether he calms when you check in.

Fusion versus intimacy: Fits if closeness for him means merging into one life with no separate parts.

Can't be alone: Check whether he struggles with being alone in general, not just from you.

Enmeshment: Check whether he grew up in a family with blurred boundaries.

Coercive control: If togetherness is enforced and your absences punished, it's control.

Limerence: Early infatuation can feel all-consuming; check whether it's new and likely to settle.

Questions to carry

  1. The last time I made plans without him, what did he say or do before and after?
  2. Picturing a whole day to myself, what feeling comes first?

Also said as

  • she gets upset if I want time alone
  • he can't do anything without me
  • why does my partner need to be with me all the time
  • suffocating relationship
  • my partner is clingy
  • my girlfriend won't give me any space

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