Situation · Yourself
“I need everyone to like me”
What could be going on
Approval-seeking/recognition-seeking schema: Worth hanging on others' approval fits; check whether disapproval feels like a threat.
People-pleasing: Putting others' approval first fits; check how often you hide your opinion.
Contingent self-worth: Fits if you only feel okay when liked; check how long a slight lasts.
Rejection sensitivity: Anxiously expecting rejection fits; check whether neutral reactions read as dislike.
Social anxiety: Fear of being judged in social situations fits; check whether you avoid events.
Conditions of worth (Rogers): Fits if love felt conditional on pleasing as a child.
Questions to carry
- The last time I sensed someone did not like me, what had they said or done?
- What do I start doing to win someone over when they seem not to like me?
Also said as
- I can't stand anyone being upset with me
- my sister needs approval from everyone
- I'm obsessed with what people think of me
- if one person dislikes me I can't sleep
- I'm desperate for approval
- why do I care so much what people think