Situation · Work

“I got passed over for promotion and I'm bitter”

What could be going on

Resentment: Fits if the anger keeps replaying but isn't said to anyone.

Organisational justice: Fits if the process felt unfair.

Envy: Fits if you feel pain at the other person's gain.

Narcissistic injury: Fits if it feels like a blow to who you are, not just your career.

Confidence-competence gap in leader selection: Fits if the person chosen was more confident than competent.

Ressentiment (Nietzsche): Fits if the bitterness turns into contempt for what they have.

Questions to carry

  1. Hearing who got it, what was the first thought I had about them?
  2. Underneath the bitterness, what did I want that promotion to say about me?

Also said as

  • they promoted someone else and I'm furious
  • I didn't get the job I deserved
  • I'm resentful about being overlooked at work
  • how do I get over not getting promoted
  • I was overlooked for a promotion
  • I'm angry I didn't get promoted

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