Situation · Work
“I got passed over for promotion and I'm bitter”
What could be going on
Resentment: Fits if the anger keeps replaying but isn't said to anyone.
Organisational justice: Fits if the process felt unfair.
Envy: Fits if you feel pain at the other person's gain.
Narcissistic injury: Fits if it feels like a blow to who you are, not just your career.
Confidence-competence gap in leader selection: Fits if the person chosen was more confident than competent.
Ressentiment (Nietzsche): Fits if the bitterness turns into contempt for what they have.
Questions to carry
- Hearing who got it, what was the first thought I had about them?
- Underneath the bitterness, what did I want that promotion to say about me?
Also said as
- they promoted someone else and I'm furious
- I didn't get the job I deserved
- I'm resentful about being overlooked at work
- how do I get over not getting promoted
- I was overlooked for a promotion
- I'm angry I didn't get promoted