“I explode over small things and then feel ashamed”

What could be going on

Sudden rage over something small: Rage out of proportion to the trigger fits; check what was building before it.

Anger as a secondary emotion: Anger may cover hurt, fear or shame; check what you felt just before it flared.

Amygdala hijack: Fits if the reaction outruns thinking in seconds; check whether you can't recall choosing it.

Emotional dysregulation: Fast, strong, slow-to-settle reactions across life fit; check how long it takes to calm.

Shame: The aftermath fits shame, feeling bad as a person; check whether it fuels the next blow-up.

Stress response and allostatic load: Accumulated stress lowers the fuse; check sleep, workload and whether it's recent.

Also said as

• I lose my temper then hate myself
• I snap at people and feel awful after
• he blows up and then apologises in tears
• my anger comes out of nowhere then I feel guilty
• I fly into a rage over nothing and feel terrible after
• my wife loses it over tiny things then cries with shame