Situation · Yourself
“He's angry all the time lately”
What could be going on
Covert depression in men (Terry Real): In men depression often shows as anger; check for withdrawal, poor sleep and lost interests.
Anger as a secondary emotion: His anger may cover hurt, fear or shame; check what happened before it started.
Stress response and allostatic load: Accumulated stress shortens the fuse; check work, money and health pressures.
Burnout: Irritability with exhaustion and cynicism fits; check whether it's worse on workdays.
Substance addiction: Check whether drinking or drug use has risen alongside the anger.
Sudden rage over something small: Check whether it's constant irritability or sudden rages over small things.
Questions to carry
- When did the anger start, and what else changed in his life around then?
- What does my body do when his anger rises, and how safe do I feel?
Also said as
- my husband is always irritable
- my dad snaps at everyone
- he's become so angry
- my brother rages about everything
- my husband is so angry lately
- my son has become aggressive