Situation · Partners and dating

“He says I'm too sensitive”

What could be going on

Invalidation: Fits if he dismisses your feelings as wrong rather than trying to understand them.

Gaslighting: Check whether 'too sensitive' is used to make you doubt clear hurtful behaviour.

Sensory processing sensitivity (highly sensitive person): You may genuinely feel things deeply; this is a trait, not a fault.

Overreacts to mild criticism: Check honestly whether you react strongly to mild criticism across many relationships.

Rejection sensitivity: Fits if you read rejection into small moments more than most.

Alexithymia: He may struggle with emotions himself and find yours confusing.

Questions to carry

  1. The last time he said it, what had I just told him I felt?
  2. After he says it, what do I do with the feeling I had raised?
Take it furtherBring one real moment of it to the Not Feeling Heard inquiry.Free, about 3 minutes, no account.

Also said as

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  • am I too sensitive or is he mean
  • partner says I'm dramatic
  • my partner calls me oversensitive
  • my husband says I take everything too personally

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