“A colleague keeps undermining me”
What could be going on
Envy: Fits if it got worse as you gained visibility, praise or a role they wanted.
Envy disguised as critique: Constant critique that is really envy fits if the criticism is vague, personal and persistent.
Status motive: Fits if you compete for the same rank, budget or boss's attention.
Machiavellianism: Fits if it is strategic: done to the right audience, deniable, and smooth face to face.
Social comparison: They may be measuring themselves against you; check whether they track your results closely.
Confirmation bias: Check the evidence; once you suspect someone, neutral comments start to look like attacks.
Questions to carry
- The last time I felt undermined, what had I just done well or been noticed for?
- When it happens in front of others, what do I do with my face and my voice?
Also said as
- my coworker is sabotaging me
- she keeps making me look bad in front of the boss
- he questions everything I say in meetings to make me look stupid
- why is my colleague trying to get me fired
- coworker trying to make me fail
- my colleague backstabs me to management