Situation · Family and friends

“My teenage daughter hates me”

What could be going on

Separation-individuation (Mahler): Fits normal adolescence: pushing away to become a separate person.

Identity moratorium: Could be active identity searching, which comes with anxiety and rejection of parental views.

Psychological reactance: Check whether rules feel like a threat to her freedom, bringing more defiance.

Displacement: Could be anger from school or friends landing on the safest person: you.

Rupture and repair: Check whether repairs happen after fights; repair matters more than avoiding rupture.