“My parent hurt me as a child and now acts like it never happened”

What could be going on

Denial: Fits if they refuse the facts outright, not merely avoid the topic.

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs): Childhood abuse is a recognised adversity; check how it affects you now.

Complex PTSD: Check whether you have lasting shame, relationship trouble or emotional floods from it.

Denies things you both saw happen: Fits if they deny events siblings or others also witnessed.

Cognitive dissonance: Could be they cannot fit what they did with their view of themselves.

Also said as

• my mum hit us growing up and now says she was a good mother
• my abusive dad wants a normal relationship
• parent abused me and pretends everything is fine
• why does my father act like my childhood was happy
• abusive parent who pretends nothing happened
• my mum hurt me as a kid and denies it