“My new boss loved me at first and now can't stand me”
What could be going on
Idealises, then devalues: Fits exactly; check whether others have gone through the same cycle with them.
Idealise-devalue-discard cycle: Fits if it moves from praise to contempt to pushing you out.
Splitting: Fits if you went from all good to all bad with no middle.
Halo effect: Fits if early praise was based on one impression that faded.
Narcissistic injury: Fits if the turn followed you disagreeing with or outshining them.
Role conflict and ambiguity: Check whether expectations shifted without being told to you.
Questions to carry
- Looking back, when did the warmth turn, and what had just happened at work?
- Which early praise am I still trying to earn back?
Also said as
- I went from favourite to target
- my manager used to praise me and now she criticises everything
- he put me on a pedestal and then dropped me
- why did my boss turn on me
- my boss used to like me and now hates me
- my manager went from praising me to criticising me