“My family only gets in touch when they want money”

What could be going on

I–It (Buber): Fits if you are approached for what you provide, not who you are.

Psychological entitlement: Could be a belief they are owed your help; check reactions when you refuse.

Emotional blackmail (fear, obligation, guilt): Check whether refusals bring threats, guilt or talk of family duty.

Codependency: Fits if paying gives you worth or relief, making it hard to stop.

Boundaries: Check whether you have a clear limit; without one, requests usually grow.

Financial enabling: Fits if your giving keeps them from facing their own money problems, and you give out of guilt or worry.

Financial dependence: Could be that they rely on you and can't picture managing without it. Check whether they've ever had to.

Also said as

• my brother only calls to borrow cash
• relatives treat me like a bank
• my parents expect me to pay for everything
• why does my family see me as a wallet
• family that uses me financially
• relatives only call when they need a loan