Situation · Partners and dating

“I walk on eggshells around my husband”

What could be going on

You walk on eggshells around them: A strong sign the relationship runs on his moods; notice what you've stopped saying or doing.

Sudden rage over something small: Check whether he blows up over small things that you can't predict.

Coercive control: Fits if fear shapes your daily choices, especially with monitoring, isolation or threats.

Hypervigilance: Your scanning for danger may be a learned response to real unpredictability.

Fawn response: Fits if you keep him calm by pleasing and placating, sometimes automatically.

Emotional dysregulation: He may genuinely struggle to manage emotion; check whether he's like this elsewhere too.

Before he walks into the room, what do I check, change or put away?
Where in my body does the watching sit, and who in my life knows it is like this?