Situation · Yourself
“I never ask for help”
What could be going on
Never asks for help: Never asking fits; check whether you feel weak when you do.
Counterdependence (devaluing one's own need): Looking down on your own needs fits; check whether you judge needy people.
Dismissive-avoidant attachment: Self-reliance and distance fit; check how you are with partners.
Emotional deprivation schema: Expecting no one will meet your needs fits.
Parentification: Fits if you were the helper as a child.
Enneagram Type 8: Challenger: Fear of being at others' mercy fits as a lens.
Questions to carry
- The last time I needed help and said nothing, who could I have asked, and what stopped me?
- Picturing myself asking for help, what do I imagine the other person thinking?
Also said as
- I do everything myself
- my dad would rather struggle than ask
- asking for help feels weak
- I don't want to bother people
- I struggle to ask for help
- why can't I ask for help