“I freeze when someone yells at me”
What could be going on
Fight, flight, freeze: Going still and blank under a raised voice is the freeze response; check whether it's automatic.
Triggers: Fits if yelling links to past harm; check whether someone shouted a lot when you were young.
Fawn response: Check whether the freeze turns into placating and agreeing once you can move again.
Zones out under pressure: Zoning out under pressure fits; check whether it also happens in exams or meetings.
Complex PTSD: Fits if there was long, hard-to-escape harm; check for shame and constant alertness too.
Behavioural inhibition: Could be a reactive, wary temperament; check whether you were a shy, easily startled child.
Questions to carry
- The last time someone yelled, who was it, and what happened in my body first?
- When I was young, what happened at home when voices were raised?
Also said as
- I go blank when people get angry
- I can't speak when someone shouts
- my wife shuts down if I raise my voice
- I just freeze and can't think
- I shut down when someone shouts at me
- why do I freeze when people yell