“I feel lonely in my marriage”

What could be going on

Bids for connection: Check whether small reach-outs from either of you get missed or turned away.

Perceived partner responsiveness (Reis): Fits if you don't feel understood, valued or cared for when you share.

Attunement: Check whether he notices how you feel without being told.

Negative sentiment override: Fits if resentment has coloured how you see each other.

Covert depression in men (Terry Real): Check whether he's withdrawn, irritable or numbing, which can be hidden depression.

Emotional deprivation schema: Fits if you've long expected not to be emotionally met, in many relationships.

Also said as

• I feel alone even when he's next to me
• we live like roommates
• why do I feel lonely in my relationship
• my wife and I barely connect anymore
• I'm lonely in my relationship
• my husband and I are like strangers