Situation · Family and friends
“I feel like I've outgrown my old friends”
What could be going on
Individuation: Fits if you're becoming more yourself and old ties no longer fit.
Self-authoring mind: Could be a shift from others' expectations to your own values.
Grief (complicated, disenfranchised, anticipatory): Losing friendships is a loss; check whether you allow yourself to mourn it.
Guilt: Check whether you've harmed anyone; changing isn't a wrong.
Social comparison: Check whether outgrowing them is partly feeling above them.
Questions to carry
- When I last saw my old friends, which moment made me feel I had moved on?
- What am I grieving about these friendships, even as I move away from them?
Also said as
- my school friends and I have nothing in common now
- drifting apart from friends as I change
- guilty for not wanting to see old friends
- why don't I connect with my old friends anymore
- outgrowing friends
- I've changed and my friends haven't