“I feel like I have to parent my own mother”

What could be going on

Parentification: Fits if you met her emotional needs as a child: confidant, mediator, carer.

The gifted child: adapting to a parent's needs (Alice Miller): Could be why you are so good at reading her and so poor at noticing yourself.

Enmeshment: Check whether her moods feel like your job and your separateness feels disloyal.

Codependency: Fits if your worth now rests on managing her problems.

Over-functioning and under-functioning: Check whether the more you do, the less she does, a loop you both sustain.

Also said as

• I've been my mum's therapist since I was a kid
• my mother leans on me like I'm the adult
• role reversal with my parent
• why do I feel responsible for my mum's feelings
• parentified child
• I take care of my mum emotionally