Situation · Yourself
“I apologise for everything”
What could be going on
Over-apologises: Reflexive apologising fits; check whether you apologise when you've done nothing.
Fawn response: Placating to defuse threat fits; check whether you learned it around anger.
People-pleasing: Apologising to keep others comfortable fits; check whether you hide disagreement.
Shame: Feeling you're a bother fits; check whether you feel too much as a person.
Subjugation schema: Surrendering to others to avoid consequences fits; check fear of anger.
Social anxiety: Fear of being judged could drive it; check whether it's worse with strangers.
Questions to carry
- The last time I said sorry, what had I done, and what was the other person feeling?
- Just before I apologise, what am I afraid will happen if I don't?
Also said as
- I say sorry all the time
- my girlfriend apologises when I bump into her
- I apologise for existing
- why do I say sorry so much
- I can't stop saying sorry
- why do I over apologise