Situation · Partners and dating
“He never asks about me”
What could be going on
Talks only about themselves: Check whether conversations always circle back to him, his day, his problems.
Bids for connection: Fits if he misses or turns away from your small bids for attention.
Grandiose narcissism: Fits if lack of interest comes with feeling superior and needing admiration.
Perceived partner responsiveness (Reis): What matters is whether you feel understood and cared for; check whether he shows it other ways.
Autism in adults: Some people don't ask questions but care deeply; check whether he listens closely when you share.
Social anxiety: Could be awkwardness about what to ask; check whether he's quiet and unsure in conversation generally.
Questions to carry
- In our last long conversation, where were the openings for him to ask about me, and what filled them?
- What am I hoping to tell him, on the days I want him to ask about me?
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