Situation · Work
“Why do I freeze when my boss criticises me”
What could be going on
Fight, flight, freeze: Freezing is a threat response; check whether your body tightens and time slows.
Zones out under pressure: Fits if you zone out whenever pressure rises.
Transference: Fits if the boss reminds you of a critical parent or teacher.
Triggers: Fits if a certain tone or look sets it off.
Window of tolerance: Fits if you are pushed past the level of stress where you can think.
Shame: Fits if you feel exposed and want to disappear.
Questions to carry
- Which words, or which tone, came right before the last time I froze?
- Who else did I freeze in front of when I was younger?
Also said as
- I go blank in meetings when I'm challenged
- I can't think when my manager questions me
- I shut down when someone criticises me at work
- my mind goes empty under pressure
- I can't speak when my manager criticises me
- my brain stops working when I'm criticised