Situation · Work

“Why do I freeze when my boss criticises me”

What could be going on

Fight, flight, freeze: Freezing is a threat response; check whether your body tightens and time slows.

Zones out under pressure: Fits if you zone out whenever pressure rises.

Transference: Fits if the boss reminds you of a critical parent or teacher.

Triggers: Fits if a certain tone or look sets it off.

Window of tolerance: Fits if you are pushed past the level of stress where you can think.

Shame: Fits if you feel exposed and want to disappear.

Questions to carry

  1. Which words, or which tone, came right before the last time I froze?
  2. Who else did I freeze in front of when I was younger?

Also said as

  • I go blank in meetings when I'm challenged
  • I can't think when my manager questions me
  • I shut down when someone criticises me at work
  • my mind goes empty under pressure
  • I can't speak when my manager criticises me
  • my brain stops working when I'm criticised

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