Situation · Partners and dating
“My partner is isolating me from my friends and family”
What could be going on
Coercive control: Isolation is a core feature; check whether it comes with monitoring, money control or fear.
Controls a partner's money, friends or movements: Check whether he controls who you see, where you go or your money.
Jealousy: Fits if he feels threatened by anyone else who gets your time.
Demands loyalty: Check whether he frames seeing others as disloyalty.
Emotional blackmail (fear, obligation, guilt): Fits if he uses guilt or fear to stop you going out.
Abandonment/instability schema: He may fear others will take you away from him.
Questions to carry
- Thinking of the last friend I stopped seeing, what happened at home each time I saw them?
- Which one person from before could I reach out to this week, even only to say hello?
Also said as
- he doesn't like me seeing my friends
- she always finds a reason I can't see my family
- I've lost touch with everyone since we got together
- my husband says my friends are bad for me
- my boyfriend cuts me off from my friends
- she won't let me see my family