Situation · Family and friends
“My friend never asks me anything about my life”
What could be going on
Talks only about themselves: Fits if talk is mostly about them and your news gets no follow-up.
Perceived partner responsiveness (Reis): Check whether you feel understood and cared for at all with them.
Social anxiety: A benign cause: nervous people fill silence with themselves; check if they warm up later.
Grandiose narcissism: Could be self-focus across relationships; check for entitlement and need for admiration.
Mentalising: Fits if they struggle to imagine others' inner lives in general.
Questions to carry
- In our last conversation, where were the pauses where a question might have come, and what filled them?
- Which news of mine have I been waiting to be asked about?
Also said as
- she talks for an hour and never asks how I am
- friend who shows no interest in me
- he never remembers what's going on with me
- why doesn't my friend ever ask me questions
- friend doesn't ask about me
- one-sided conversations with my friend