Situation · Family and friends
“My friend ghosted me after years of friendship”
What could be going on
Dismissive-avoidant attachment: Fits if they withdraw from closeness or conflict rather than talk.
Emotional cutoff: Could be they handle unresolved hurt by ending contact entirely.
Major depression: Check whether they withdrew from everyone, which can signal low mood.
Grief (complicated, disenfranchised, anticipatory): Your loss counts even if others don't treat it as grief.
Personalisation: Check whether you assume it must be your fault; the reason may be theirs.
Questions to carry
- Looking at our last few exchanges, what was going on in my friend's life, as far as I knew?
- Which question would I most want to ask my friend, if I could?
Also said as
- my best friend disappeared without explanation
- she just stopped answering me
- long-term friend cut me off with no reason
- why would a friend ghost you
- ghosted by a close friend
- my friend of ten years stopped talking to me