Situation · Family and friends
“My friend gets jealous when I spend time with other friends”
What could be going on
Jealousy: Fits if she fears losing her place with you to someone else.
Demands loyalty: Check whether she treats your other friendships as disloyalty.
Abandonment/instability schema: Could be a deep expectation that people leave; check her history of losses.
Anxious-preoccupied attachment: Fits if she needs frequent reassurance in all close relationships.
Fusion versus intimacy: Check whether closeness for her means sameness and exclusivity.
Questions to carry
- Before and after I last saw other friends, what did this friend say?
- How have I started to talk about my other friendships around them?
Also said as
- she sulks if I see anyone but her
- my best friend is possessive
- friend who gets upset when I make new friends
- why is my friend so territorial about me
- jealous friend
- my friend is possessive of me