Situation · Work
“My boss messages me late at night and expects a reply”
What could be going on
Boundaries: Fits if no one has said what hours are off; check whether limits were ever stated.
Workaholism: Fits if they work all hours themselves and assume everyone should.
Type A behaviour pattern: Fits if they are impatient, urgent and competitive in everything.
Must control details: Fits if late messages are about checking and controlling.
Role conflict and ambiguity: Check whether response times were ever agreed; they may not expect a reply.
Questions to carry
- Looking at the last late message, what was it about, and how urgent did it seem the next morning?
- When my phone lights up at night, what happens in my body before I read it?
Also said as
- my manager texts me at 11pm
- she emails on weekends and gets annoyed if I don't answer
- always-on culture at my job
- boss has no respect for my time off
- boss calls me after hours
- my supervisor expects me to answer emails at midnight