Situation · Family and friends
“I'm the scapegoat in my family”
What could be going on
One person is blamed for everything: Fits if one person carries blame for everything and the family seems calmer when you're absent.
Scapegoating: Could be the family pinning its tension on you so it doesn't look at itself.
Family roles (golden child, scapegoat, lost child, mascot): Check whether siblings hold fixed roles too: hero, lost child, mascot.
Projection: Fits if the faults they accuse you of match their own.
Triangulation: Check whether parents' conflict gets routed through you.
Questions to carry
- The last time something went wrong in the family, how quickly did it come back to me, and who said it?
- When the blame lands on me, what part of me starts to believe it?
Also said as
- everything is always my fault in my family
- my family blames me for every argument
- I'm the black sheep who gets blamed
- why does my family make me the problem
- family scapegoat
- I get blamed for everything at home