Situation · Work
“I walk on eggshells around my manager”
What could be going on
You walk on eggshells around them: Fits exactly; check whether others also watch their mood.
Destructive and abusive leadership: Fits if their behaviour is repeated and harmful.
Emotional dysregulation: Fits if their reactions are fast, strong and slow to settle.
Fawn response: Fits if you placate to stay safe.
Hypervigilance: Fits if you scan constantly for signs of their mood.
Triggers: Fits if they remind you of someone volatile from your past.
Questions to carry
- Before I speak to my manager, what do I check about their mood, and how?
- Who outside work knows what it is like, and what does my body do on Sunday nights?
Also said as
- I never know what mood my boss will be in
- my boss's moods control the whole office
- I'm scared to say anything to her
- constant anxiety around my supervisor
- I'm afraid of my boss's temper
- my manager is unpredictable and I'm always on edge