Situation · Family and friends
“I feel like the black sheep of my family”
What could be going on
Social isolation/alienation schema: Fits if you've felt different from others since childhood, not just at home.
Family roles (golden child, scapegoat, lost child, mascot): Could be a cast role such as lost child or scapegoat; check how others treat you.
Individuation: Check whether you are becoming more yourself, which can feel like exile.
Temperament: An ordinary cause: you may differ in temperament from the rest; difference isn't defect.
Scapegoating: Fits if your difference is blamed for family problems.
Questions to carry
- At the last family gathering, which moment made me feel most outside?
- Which part of me does the family not see, and who does see it?
Also said as
- I don't fit in with my family at all
- everyone in my family is the same except me
- the odd one out among my siblings
- why do I feel like an outsider in my own family
- black sheep of the family
- I'm different from everyone in my family