“I feel like I'm always chasing him”

What could be going on

Pursuer-distancer (demand-withdraw): Fits if your pursuit and his retreat feed each other in a loop.

Anxious-preoccupied attachment: Check whether distance makes you anxious and you reach harder to feel safe.

Hyperactivating strategies: Fits if you escalate contact or attention when you sense him slipping away.

Intermittent reinforcement: Occasional rewards for chasing keep you chasing; check whether he responds just enough.

Protest behaviour: Check whether you call, text or act out to get a reaction.

Dismissive-avoidant attachment: He may simply be more independent; check whether he's distant with everyone.

Also said as

• I'm always the one reaching out
• if I didn't text first we'd never talk
• why do I have to chase her for attention
• I put in all the effort in this relationship
• I'm always the one making the effort
• it feels one sided