Overshares early
First coffee, and they tell you about the divorce, the therapy and their father's drinking.
Rule out first
Cultures or circles where this openness is normal. A recent crisis that is leaking. A setting that invited it, such as a retreat.
What could explain it
Boundaries: They overshare with everyone, not just you, and don't track who knows them how well.
Anxious-preoccupied attachment: The disclosure seeks closeness fast and is followed by checking whether you still like them.
ADHD in adults: It's impulsive and they're embarrassed later. Other impulsive signs are present.
Love bombing: Aimed at you, it builds an instant special bond and comes with flattery and talk of the future together.
Histrionic personality: The telling is dramatic and draws an audience; the story is vivid but the feeling seems thin.
A next move
Offer a small, proportionate disclosure back. Do they take interest in yours, push for more intimacy, or move on to the next audience?
If it’s you
What was I hoping they'd do with what I told them?